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Once
upon a time, there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th
wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the
finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He
also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to
neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave
him for another.

He
also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidante and was always kind,
considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he
could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult
times.

The
King’s 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great
contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did
not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took
notice of her.

One
day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of
his luxurious life and wondered, "I now have four wives with me, but
when I die, I’ll be all alone."

Thus,
he asked the 4th wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the
finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying,
will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!", replied the 4th
wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a
sharp knife right into his heart.

The
sad King then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now
that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied
the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to remarry!"
His heart sank and turned cold.

He
then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and
you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and
keep me company?" "I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!" replied
the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only stand by your grave and
mourn." Her answer came like a bolt of lightning, and the King was
devastated.

Then
a voice called out: "I’ll leave with you and follow you no matter where
you go." The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was so
skinny as she suffered from neglect and malnutrition. Greatly grieved,
the King said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had
the chance!"

In
truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives: Our 4th wife is our body. No
matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it
will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others.

Our
2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been
there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And
our 1st wife is our Soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power
and pleasures of the ego. However, our Soul is the only thing that will
follow us wherever we go. So cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now,
it is your greatest gift to offer the world.

When the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.

Author Unknown

我们每个人心中都会把朋友分成不同等级：生死之交、好朋友、知心朋友、红颜知己、普通朋友、酒肉朋友、志趣朋友、难兄难弟、契姐契哥和各种你可能连听也没有听过的等级。

可是当你把对方冠上“好朋友”，对方却只当你是普通朋友。你以为你整天想对方诉心事对方就是你的知心朋友，却其实是我们的自以为是。自以为自己在对方的心目中有着同等的地位。你整天找人诉苦却不知道别人其实已经觉得你很烦，因为人家都不想听你说心事（我们只是普通朋友！），你却整天拉着别人说，自然的对方就会开始避开你，免得被你烦死，可是同样的情况，当对方心里面认为的“知心朋友”来向他诉苦，他却不会觉得烦还会很有耐性的听，帮他分析等等。

可能你会问，有没有搞错？两个同样来诉苦，所说的东西也大同小异，为何一个会被人冠上“烦人”的名称了，人人敬而远之。很简单，那就是因为你的“自以为是”。

当我们把对方分了等级之后，我们就会要求对方用那个等级的方式来回应自己。我当你是知心朋友，当我有心事时我就会和你说，我希望你也会一样对待自己，当别人没有，自己就会觉得受伤了。

另外一种是，对方是你最要好的朋友，对方也把你当最要好的朋友，可是他对最要好的朋友的定义和你不同，他觉得最要好的朋友就算不记得生日也没什么大不了，可是你却认为你最要好的朋友必须要记得对方的生日，结果对方没有，自己就觉得受伤了。

这就是为什么有时候你见到一对非常要好的朋友，结果却因为一些小事而闹翻了，从此犹如陌生人，不要觉得惊讶！因为这是人性！我们都是要求对方给、给、给、给、给，当对方没有给到我们的时候我们就心里不爽了，结果一段得来不易的友情就如此结束了。

所以如何在与各种不同“等级”的人相处是学问，也是智慧。当我们在心中把对方冠上任何的等级前，也先了解对方是否把你摆在同等级的位置上。然而，如何去确定也是一个难处，你总不能见到对方就问，我是你的好朋友吗？（你要对方如何回答你？？？）所以能够引用智慧去确定是很重要，例如：在对方有难的时候而对方也愿意让你帮忙，就尽管去吧！可是如果人家有困难却不愿意让你帮忙，那么你就可以知道对方的“好朋友”等级和你不是同等的。所以我们必须学习一门功课叫“不要求”。不要求的意思就是说，当你把对方摆在好朋友的等级，那么你就尽管去做一个好朋友该做的事，却不期望人家会用好朋友的方法回应你

。

我曾经就是自以为是的把对方当成很要好的朋友，但其实自己在对方的程度只是比普通朋友好一点点，结果当然就闹得很多不愉快。对于我的好朋友（在我的定义好朋友就是我很关心的人），当我知道对方不开心，我会不厌其烦的问下去，因为我很想帮助他们，可是对方却觉得我很烦，因为对方觉得我的关心（或我问的问题）已经超过普通朋友应该有的界限，而我却还自以为是的把对方当好朋友。

到现在我还在学习，如何保持界限却同时又不忽略应给的关心。

相处是一门学问，也是一种智慧，如何在相处之间拿捏得稳就会为彼此的关系增添不少美丽的色彩。

向自以为是说永别吧！

Today is a good day, one of my very good sister get marry today!! Cause
I need to be her hubby’s heng dei, no choice cannot go church, so that
I didnt (including all my bros) accompany she to the church, and when
we reach my very good sister’s house, we got called from my mum that
she had been snatched, when we know that she is alright, I feel so angry,
why tis thing happened on my mum? so that I have no mood to be heng
dei, just wanna faster finish it, but the ji mui play till so excited
wasted all our time, when it is over I immediately go to church (cause
my mum drive my car and the car key is in the beg as well) thanks God
the car still there (should I thanks God? if not I may have a chance to
change new car? hahaha)
I
was keep thinking and asking God why tis why that? we already not enuf
to use, y still let tis kind of things happened? i also think that are
we doing something bad that cause tis? doesn’t God say He will protect
us? when im keep think think think and think finally that’s a thought
tell me "that’s so many ppl been snatched and they are injured, hurted,
some even suffered and died" then suddenly I feel thanks God for
protecting my mum, cause she is 100% ok, the snatch thief didn’t do
anything toward her, if not she might get injured, etc. But thanks God
that she just felt that’s someone trying to help her carry her handbag
then "sooommmm" the guy run away…
thanks God she just lost cash, a very nice wallet and hp only… but
she didn’t get hurt at all. praise the LORD! Just pray that God will
provide what we lost. AMEN!

Yup let’s come back to the wedding,
emmm nothing special actually, just one small incident happened, cause
we need a camera man to take photo for us, then those guy beside us
like very kum cheng to help us, hahahaha, cause we got alot of leng lui
ma (ee, py, bl, ++, bb, sl, sk, and pl, right?? agreed?? sure u all
agreed la hahahaha) then they also come and join us take photo… and also use their own camera to take and ask us to give email… swt swt.
Then
tis the first time i noticed that our table, with so many female, can
finish almost all the foods! and guo cong told me that "we need to eat
all", but i tell him dun worry, dun look down on our jie mei meng, they
are very geng… really… geng… more than i expected! hahahaha.

We
trying to ask melissa to drink but her parent not allowed (we wanna ask
her to drink cause she is playing us today, make all our heng dei so
suffer!), then we ask the assistant Oi teng, hahaha she can’t even
stand properly

After
all when go back Im thinking… my friends are getting married one by
one (one just over and another 2 is coming), feel bit "gum cuk"
hahaha… but more gum cuk is that we are so good friend before, but
just recently not as closed as before la, also cannot be so closed la,
hahahaha ppl got hubby le, must respect respect
I pray that she will be happy with her hubby forever, God blessing be with them

Just tis morning i offended my friend, by saying a wrong word… cause of this stupid 3D lame… because its a culture within our youth, this "lame" is just one of the common word that we are using, everyday we can heard tis "lame" word flying around us, but when something is ur culture doesn’t mean is their culture, therefore when i comment tis word "lame" on her post, she was so angry, and I was trying to explain that I’m don’t mean to offend her, but it sound like "jiao bian" (trying to find excuses to explain what I’m doing is right), no, I didn’t meant it, I admit I’m wrong, but when I’m trying to explain not cause i want to "jiao bian" is just that I want her to know that, I dun mean to offend her.
When she is unhappy with my "lame" word, I understand this their culture, therefore I’m willing to say sorry, but when I’m trying to explain, actually I just want to let her understand this is our culture as well, hope she can forgive me, when she stop chatting with me the moment I feel so upset… why tis happen again? with my mouth i offended many ppl before, but actually I dun mean it…
At last she forgive me, and I thanks God for that, I’m trying not to make fun with ppl, but maybe i afraid ppl will think I’m so kind of "boring" person therefore I still can’t stop it, but I guess God want me to learn a lesson, and always remind me, we have to say something that can encourage ppl instead of putting down ppl.
So dear Lord, I pray that I rather be some kind of "boring" ppl, I also dun want to make fun on ppl and make myself so "interesting",  Give me the wisdom to say the right word on the right time, amen.

听到某个朋友说我和异性的照片怎么都这么亲热（其实也只是靠得很近和搭搭肩膀而已）。他也告诉我其实有很多女孩子不喜欢。那么到底什么程度是保守什么程度是开放。有些人觉得只是搭个肩膀不算什么，有一些觉得只是站靠近点也是不能接受。那么到底我们如何衡量呢？可能我们可以根据个人的背景或习俗，那么就只有在你了解一个人才能决定要如何做。不过有些情况是一眼可以看出，譬如某些很保守的宗教，你绝对不会和她们合照时搭肩拦腰，当然我们也知道有一些虽然是在这些如此保守的宗教可是却还是非常开放的，但是基于我们知道她们的宗教背景我们选择多一事不如少一事，免得惹祸上身（相信大家也猜到什么宗教吧）。但是我个人认为在大马的华人都是比较开放的，搭一下肩膀不算什么（对吗？？）。对于我的界限，其实我认为搭搭肩膀真的没什么（特别是非常要好的朋友），而且不管男女我也是会搭肩膀（除非他/她很高啦！哈哈！！）否则我真的不知道双手摆去那里好，摆一个V？好像很幼稚，放在背后？好像很含羞，摆其他的手势？好像很傻。所以觉得搭肩膀就是最好的方法，可是听说一些人不是很喜欢所以基于圣经的原则哥林多前书10：23-24，我决定下次就不搭肩膀吧！可能有人觉得我小题大作只不过是搭个肩膀，可是如果你明白哥林多前书10：23-24的原则你就觉得虽然是小事，但是你也选择不做反正不做也不会有坏处，做了反而要担心对方不喜欢又何苦呢？那么接下来要考虑的就是手要放那里的问题……唉，这个还是到时才算吧！那么另外一个问题就是靠得很近……这个比不准搭肩膀的人还保守，通常如果我帮人拍照我会叫他们靠近一点，为什么呢？这样才拍到美啊，才容易拍啊，、也可以拍到更多背景，如果站得远远的可能别人还会以为这两个是不认识的。那到底多近才是界限呢？这又因人而定。既然我们不能划出个完美界限，那么只好下次和人合照就先站远远，等摄影的人叫我们站近一点才算咯！*o*经过这事我才发觉原来和别人拍照也是不容易的，怪不得越来越多人喜欢自拍！（胡说八道！）

我是不保守也不开放的。有些是很开放的：两个人抱在一起的、彼此好像要亲嘴、抱住对方的腰等等（注意：这些都不是情侣关系，更不是夫妻关系！）。那些我个人就不能接受了（这一些人通常都受外国教育，或者是身边的朋友都是外国人）。所以我选择的做法是，除非对方主动热情的对待，否则还是站一公尺远好了！= =|||

保守和开放，两个完全相反的个性，你是属于那一类呢？

刚刚看完《溏心风暴》第14集。说到得得地向常在心表白后所遭遇她冷漠的回应，我认识那种感觉，超不好受。可是这不是我要说的，我想说的是当得得地知道自己没机会后所做的挽留（好熟悉的感觉啊！），常在心在收到他的信后马上给他个电话，还约他见面，最后他们达成协议只做好朋友。可能有些部分和自己的过去相似所以比较有感触。

只能是好朋友吗？常在心还能很自然对待得得地吗？得得地能对她的关怀毫无感觉吗？我不知道，不过我肯定自己做不到。给我遇见像得得地的情况，我想我需要一点时间才能恢复自然。失去一段友谊是非常可惜，所以我会选择挽留，正如得得地所做的。可是有一点非常确定的就是彼此总不能恢复以前那种关系，彼此的心中永远会有一条刺。

以前我看不起“爱却不敢说出口”，可是我也开始接受他们的做法：虽然胆怯，可是也只是为了不破坏彼此的友谊。那么我呢？我会选择什么方法呢？是选择我行我素“有爱要说出口”，不需要顾及别人的我？还是行事谨慎，小心翼翼的“有爱先别说出口？”

我学习到一样功课，就是：爱要谨慎的做决定，如果决定了就不要后悔结局会如何。可是再此我也要提醒各位，朋友是有朋友的界限，在某些东西不属于朋友之间的，那么就别做出来让对方误会，特别是你对对方完全没兴趣，就算全世界的男人/女人死了，你也绝不会和对方一起的那一种。当然男未婚女未嫁，只要对方在某些方面也达到你的要求，那么也不妨考虑给对方一个机会。

我已经挽留了彼此间的友谊，我也只希望彼此是好朋友，老实说，我真的不再对你有任何的遐想了，虽然偶尔会想起，但也只是回忆的一部份，我不是电脑并不能删除对你的记忆，但是我知道你却成为我成长的一部份。是你让我更成熟、是你让我更爱自己、是你让我更爱我的家人、是你让我知道我也是个长情的人、是你让我知道神是生命的第一位。

但愿永远是好朋友；也只“会”是好朋友。

Today, a very good weather, everything was so nice, when im going to
take my car, suddenly a car just turn inside, without seeing anyone of
them, the 4w just pass through them, thanks God that’s almost 5 of
them, but one of them is not that lucky, he head been cut off, while
the 4w car pass through, i just heard the sound ‘crak’ then… i can c
his head cut off already… its so horrible… i tell the guard, he
just say witout any feeling "ooo sei zor" and the 4w car just run away
quickly!
how can this happen? what happen to our society? those ppl are really COLD BLOOD!!!
what can i do? i also doing nothing just walk away… in my heart im pray that:…

the bird will stay in the heaven without tears

有一个人在森林中漫游的时候，
突然遇见了一只饥饿的老虎，
老虎大吼一声就扑了上来。
他立刻用生平最大的力气和最快的速度逃开，
但是老虎紧追不舍，他一直跑一直跑一直跑，
最后被老虎逼入了断崖边上。站在悬崖边上，他想：
「与其被老虎捉到，活活被咬、肢解，
还不如跳入悬崖，说不定还有一线生机。」

他纵身跳入悬崖，非常幸运的卡在一棵树上，
那是长在断崖边的梅树，树上结满了梅子。

正在庆幸的时候，他听到断崖深处传来巨大的吼声，
往崖底望去，原来有一只凶猛的狮子正抬头看着他，
狮子的声音使他心颤，但转念一想：
「狮子与老虎是相同的猛兽，被甚么吃掉，都是一样的。」

当他一放下心， 又听见了一阵声音，
仔细一看，一黑一白的两只老鼠，
正用力地咬着梅树的树干。他先是一阵惊慌，
立刻又放心了，
他想：「被老鼠咬断树干跌死，总比被狮子咬好。」

情绪平复下来后，他感到肚子有点饿，
看到梅子长得正好，就采了一些吃起来。
他觉得一辈子从没吃过那么好吃的梅子，
找到一个三角形树丫休息，他想着：
「既然迟早都要死，不如在死前好好睡上一觉吧！」

他在树上沉沉的睡去了。睡醒之后，
他发现黑白老鼠不见了，老虎、狮子也不见了。
他顺着树枝， 小心翼翼的攀上悬崖，终于脱离险境。
原来就在他睡着的时候，饥饿的老虎按捺不住，
终于大吼一声， 跳下悬崖。黑白老鼠听到老虎的吼声，
惊慌逃走了。
跳下悬崖的老虎与崖下的狮子展开激烈的打斗，
双双负伤逃走了。

由我们诞生那一刻开始，
苦难．就像饥饿的老虎一直追赶着我们，
死亡，就像一头凶猛的狮子，一直在悬崖的尽头等待，
白天和黑夜的交替，就像黑白老鼠，
不停地正用力咬着我们暂时栖身的生活之树，
总有一天我们会落入狮子的口中。

既然知道了生命中最坏的情景是死亡，唯一的路，
就是安然地享受树上甜美的果子，然后安心地睡觉，
好好的享受你在世上的每一分每一秒。

如果刚才你和另一半或是和家人为了芝麻绿豆的事闹翻了，
现在头顶还在生烟的话，
请你看看那晴朗的天空和那飘渺的白云，其实你又错过了美好的一天呀 !